How much of an impact can a parent *really* have on their child? And their siblings? And the order that they were born?
I might've mentioned before that reading the "First Born Advantage" (I don't remember the author) is very enlightening. It's an analysis of how the distance in age between your siblings and the order you were born in affects you.
How much potential does a parent have to determine how their child thinks, feels about the world, and acts in response to certain situations? How many of these would be good and how many are bad? It's kind of scary. Sometime you see such a wonderful child and then you see their parent and think "Oh dear why did you get such a pleasant child thank goodness he/she is alright!" but all the same you can see their affect.
At the moment I've been analyzing guys with little sisters, augh, they're probably the least likeliest to have any interest in me depending on how they see me, because I could be exactly what they're looking for because of the fact that they've lived with a little sister before but if say, I have to be in a higher leadership position than them or in a way, "be strong" in front of them it could turn them off. And when they have older brothers.....dear lord. That just turns bad, a lot of the times.
Sometimes I think the very thing that's stopping a wonderful relationship is one of the pair's siblings, or both, or their parents, and how they've been raised. And even if they're smart they might not have been brought up with a strong personality, but more of a passive one with/against their family, so they'll never break through. And the firstborn will but if he's smart he'll break through and make it seem like he hasn't so that the younger two don't break out of their parent's ideas of right and wrong.
I think a parent's duty is to raise a child that will make improvements and contribute to society. Nothing more, nothing less. It takes a lot to do that.
I might've mentioned before that reading the "First Born Advantage" (I don't remember the author) is very enlightening. It's an analysis of how the distance in age between your siblings and the order you were born in affects you.
How much potential does a parent have to determine how their child thinks, feels about the world, and acts in response to certain situations? How many of these would be good and how many are bad? It's kind of scary. Sometime you see such a wonderful child and then you see their parent and think "Oh dear why did you get such a pleasant child thank goodness he/she is alright!" but all the same you can see their affect.
At the moment I've been analyzing guys with little sisters, augh, they're probably the least likeliest to have any interest in me depending on how they see me, because I could be exactly what they're looking for because of the fact that they've lived with a little sister before but if say, I have to be in a higher leadership position than them or in a way, "be strong" in front of them it could turn them off. And when they have older brothers.....dear lord. That just turns bad, a lot of the times.
Sometimes I think the very thing that's stopping a wonderful relationship is one of the pair's siblings, or both, or their parents, and how they've been raised. And even if they're smart they might not have been brought up with a strong personality, but more of a passive one with/against their family, so they'll never break through. And the firstborn will but if he's smart he'll break through and make it seem like he hasn't so that the younger two don't break out of their parent's ideas of right and wrong.
I think a parent's duty is to raise a child that will make improvements and contribute to society. Nothing more, nothing less. It takes a lot to do that.
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